What is Happening to My Grammar? 10 Tips for Being More Well-Spoken

Everyday Communication

In a world of constant electronic communication, abbreviations and shorthand abound. Between brief text messages, hasty emails, and social media updates comprised of 140 characters or less, we have placed a priority on being efficient and quick over using proper grammar and sentence structure. We’re limiting our vocabulary, sometimes even using emojis instead of real words. Plus, we’re getting in the habit of speaking the same way we communicate electronically.

Since graduating college, the majority of my reading has been comprised of emails, social media statuses, brief news articles online, etc. I’ve noticed my grammar and my vocabulary (both of which I used to take pride in) have started to suffer in my everyday speech and in my writing.

Now, I can’t even believe I’m admitting this, but the other day I was chatting with my mom, and I happened to say the word “mistaked.” What I meant to say was “mistaken.” She was horrified. I was horrified. But, the worst part was that I didn’t even realize it until she pointed it out! I don’t even know why or how, but it happened. Since then, I’ve been on a mission to get my grammar back.

Keep scrolling for a few tips that have been working for me so far:

10 Tips For Becoming More Well-Spoken

1. Read more: Regular reading affects my everyday speech, in a good way! Even spending just 30 minutes a day reading a good book, I find I’m expanding my vocabulary and processing information as fully formed sentences. Overall, books stimulate my brain in ways that Netflix just can’t. Check out my current reading list on  Goodreads!
2. Limit slang words: It’s easy to get in the habit of using slang words. I know I certainly do from time to time! Once you are in the habit of using a particular slang word, it just may slip out when you are speaking to a boss, interviewer, or another important figure in your life.
3. Use real words: Try to use full, real words whenever possible, such as “can not” instead of “can’t” or “should have” instead of “should’ve.” This is an easy and simple thing that can make you seem just a little more well-spoken.
4. Review common grammar mistakes: It can be easy to forget the use of proper pronouns. Be sure to always use “I,” “me,” “he,” “she,” “him” and “her” properly. For example, you should say, ” she came to the movies with Abbey and me” instead of “with Abbey and I.” Think about whether you would use the pronoun “we” or “us,” and that will help!
5. Limit trendy transition words:   Do you start every sentence with “literally” or “honestly?” Try to only use these words when you are actually aiming to use them properly. If you say “honestly” all the time, does that mean whenever you don’t say it, you are being dishonest?
6. Expand your vocabulary: Do you fall into the trap of using the same basic adjectives, such as “cute” or “amazing?” If there is are particular worsd that you find yourself using repeatedly, look up some synonyms for these words and try to use them instead of your normal “go-tos.”
7. Cut out filler words: “Like” and “um” are notorious for being used to stall while we’re thinking about something. Try to say “such as” instead of “like,” which will allow you to make comparisons more eloquently.
8. Speak clearly: Be confident and don’t mumble. Whatever point you are trying to make, it will be more impactful if you say it with conviction. You don’t have to be aggressive – just sure of yourself!
9. Don’t speak too quickly or too slowly: I used to speak extremely fast, especially when preparing for a presentation. My subconscious was telling me to go as fast as I could to just get it over with, but I have since learned the importance of taking a deep breath and speaking at a normal pace.
10. Think before you speak: There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a moment to get your thoughts together before speaking. You’ll be more concise with your words, and will ultimately come across as being more well-spoken.

Do you find that your grammar and speech are affected by external influences? Do you have any tips for being more well-spoken?
xo -L